The Problem With Leading Your Clients!
Yesterday, I went for a hypnotherapy session with a hyp in my area who sought me out for a trade. If you have heard it said that all hypnotherapists are perfect, with no problems or challenges or issues of their own, don't believe them! So that was cool, I still have one thing I've been working on for a while.
I knew that she was planning on doing regression to cause with an affect bridge (it's what she does for every issue), and although that has been tried several times before on me with this particular issue, I had never had success. But I think I went in with the right mental attitude - that I was going to still my hypnotherapist's mind and let go! There is always the danger of going to another hypnotherapist and wanting to listen for techniques instead of surrendering, which is what is necessary for a good hypnotic trance.
This hyp was very effective with me (or was it me being effective with her?; - ) I felt like I let go really nicely (being fairly anal and controlling this was a lovely surprise to me). Then came the affect bridge... She really built that bad feeling up in me very effectively - the feeling of being out of control - and then I seem to have regressed to age four where my father was giving me a spanking for something I could not understand I was being spanked for. She asked me, "What was the feeling that I had about that spanking?" I told her that I felt like "It's not fair." Then she did it. She lost me (hypnotherapeutically speaking). She suggested to me (the caps are because she was yelling with great emotion) "YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE NOT GOING TO GET OUT ALIVE, DON'T YOU?!!" Um, no, not really. "YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE WORTHLESS AND HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU, DON'T YOU?" Uh, not really. In my now fully aware and awake hypnotherapist's mind, I'm thinking "uh oh, this is not good! What kind of crazy ideas are you implanting in my sensitive four-year old's mind? I told her, I don't believe in leading. She countered "who is in charge here, you or me?" I felt that I had let go very nicely, remember? Tears, blubbering, real panic, etc. She told me that I wasn't really in trance, and that I was holding back the whole time. Hmm, gee, I felt like I had the deepest trance I had had in a long time. Anyway, the real problem for me was the fact that she was leading.
You all know that I rant and rave about this from time to time. Do no harm. Do not lead your clients. This is how false memory syndrome happens. Ask them, "What emotion are you feeling right now?" "How does that make you feel?" You can then intensify that feeling, if you wish, by saying "Really allow yourself to feel those feelings." "What does that remind you of?" And so on. But please, never ever, ever assume you know what that person is feeling. You can create a sad/bad/non-serving feeling that never even existed. And that's a bad thing.
She then said "do you want to stop this right now?" I tried to talk to her about my feelings, but she insisted that she was in charge, that that was her training, and she would not budge. So what happened? She left me open. I had to give myself suggestions for closing myself and healing. And all last night and today, I've had this somewhat nauseas feeling, like bile rising in my throat. I think I need to do a little more healing on myself.
First hypnotherapist: Do no harm.
I knew that she was planning on doing regression to cause with an affect bridge (it's what she does for every issue), and although that has been tried several times before on me with this particular issue, I had never had success. But I think I went in with the right mental attitude - that I was going to still my hypnotherapist's mind and let go! There is always the danger of going to another hypnotherapist and wanting to listen for techniques instead of surrendering, which is what is necessary for a good hypnotic trance.
This hyp was very effective with me (or was it me being effective with her?; - ) I felt like I let go really nicely (being fairly anal and controlling this was a lovely surprise to me). Then came the affect bridge... She really built that bad feeling up in me very effectively - the feeling of being out of control - and then I seem to have regressed to age four where my father was giving me a spanking for something I could not understand I was being spanked for. She asked me, "What was the feeling that I had about that spanking?" I told her that I felt like "It's not fair." Then she did it. She lost me (hypnotherapeutically speaking). She suggested to me (the caps are because she was yelling with great emotion) "YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE NOT GOING TO GET OUT ALIVE, DON'T YOU?!!" Um, no, not really. "YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE WORTHLESS AND HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU, DON'T YOU?" Uh, not really. In my now fully aware and awake hypnotherapist's mind, I'm thinking "uh oh, this is not good! What kind of crazy ideas are you implanting in my sensitive four-year old's mind? I told her, I don't believe in leading. She countered "who is in charge here, you or me?" I felt that I had let go very nicely, remember? Tears, blubbering, real panic, etc. She told me that I wasn't really in trance, and that I was holding back the whole time. Hmm, gee, I felt like I had the deepest trance I had had in a long time. Anyway, the real problem for me was the fact that she was leading.
You all know that I rant and rave about this from time to time. Do no harm. Do not lead your clients. This is how false memory syndrome happens. Ask them, "What emotion are you feeling right now?" "How does that make you feel?" You can then intensify that feeling, if you wish, by saying "Really allow yourself to feel those feelings." "What does that remind you of?" And so on. But please, never ever, ever assume you know what that person is feeling. You can create a sad/bad/non-serving feeling that never even existed. And that's a bad thing.
She then said "do you want to stop this right now?" I tried to talk to her about my feelings, but she insisted that she was in charge, that that was her training, and she would not budge. So what happened? She left me open. I had to give myself suggestions for closing myself and healing. And all last night and today, I've had this somewhat nauseas feeling, like bile rising in my throat. I think I need to do a little more healing on myself.
First hypnotherapist: Do no harm.
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